Flaws and All

How many have seen the Tara and Bella video on Flaws? Did you like it? We've gotten some good feedback and before I start, I just wanna say a big thank you to all those who watched the video and got back to us. Much appreciated. If you haven't seen it, check it out here!!!

In this world where majority are dying to be perfect, I think it's important for those of us that have our heads right to let people know the following things.

1. No one is perfect. Even Beyonce who I think is absolutely gorgeous complains constantly about her ears. Everyone has something on their bodies that they would trade and what's funnier, everyone has something on their body that they hate meanwhile, someone else absolutely loves it!

2. There is only one you and you were made the way you were for a special purpose. So stop trying to change so much. If you ask me, what people should work on changing about themselves is what's inside and not what is on the outside. A beautiful soul has much more value than a beautiful body or face. If that sounds like blab to you, consider this; when you die (which we all will someday!), that body you are so obsessed with making perfect will be buried in the sand and rot. Yes, your body, God made it out of sand and it will go back to being sand eventually no matter how good looking it is.

3. Confidence makes you sexy. Have you ever been out with that friend you know you look much better than yet she gets all the attention? It's the way she carries herself! Men are attracted to women who are confident with themselves. When you feel sexy, you are automatically sexy (to someone).

4. One man's trash, next man's treasure. This isn't to discount the last point but we do admit that some men are just shallow and you can be confident all you want but if you are more than a size 4, they won't send you. Well that's them! Don't let anyone put you down. What they don't see, someone else will. In this life, everyone won't like you. Accept that.

5. Love yourself. It starts with YOU. If you can't accept that body, own that flab and crooked nose, then you'll be miserable for a long time. Ignore the "reality" shows you see of people getting plastic surgery and suddenly having this new look on life. It's BULL. It starts now. You have to love you whichever way you are.

So my lovelies, these are the things we must know! I was inspired to do this by a post I just read on one of my favorite blogs. Check it out here. She goes as far as actually putting up pictures of her body as it is. Kudos girl! For me, I'll just list out the flaws of my body; flaws I'm learning to love/ accept.

*My gap tooth. I've never liked it and I often consider using braces to close the gap.
*Lips. I feel like my lips could be a little less thicker.
*Ears. I have ears that stick out but these I now love cause my Daddy has the same ears so it's our thing :)
*#TeamSuckBelleMakeTheShirtFine!!! Even with my recent weight loss, I still haven't been able to get rid of all the stomach fat!
*Butt. It's soft and that is nice but I wish there was more there. LOL

So you see? We ALL have flaws. Own yours! Xxx

Showing off my gap-tooth :)

Oh Dear!

I woke up at past 9 this morning (applaud. I'm an early riser) and I lay in bed till 11am wondering what to do with myself. My boredom and the lack of useful internet led me to open Photo Booth on my MacBook but I couldn't even take a decent photo. The red hair had gotten old. So I got off my ass, and headed to town to change my hair.

Bank first for money, market for the weave and then the hair salon. I should have probably taken my hair out myself and washed it in school because these salons in Nigeria make it seem like having natural hair is a crime. The lady who took my weave out, washed and dried my hair and then braided it... I have no words for her. She needs to beg God for forgiveness tonight.

As if that were not enough, my stylist takes one look at the weave I bought and informs me that it's a fake. There go the cute curls I had in mind! I was gonna have him curl the hair with a curling iron after fixing it. I should probably blame myself. I normally check the weave texture and all to know if it's the right one before I leave the shop but today, I was in such a rush for no apparent reason.

Summary, I have a new hairstyle now which I detest and a banging headache to boot. Luckily, I have pain killers and a pretty face so I won't let today's experience bring me down. Since getting back, I have gone through my lipstick collection to identify the colors that would make the hairstyle a bit tolerable and I am thinking chunky earrings will help make it look okay too.

I've never been a hat/ beanie/ things to put on your head person but now I'm wishing I was! As far as hair accessories go, all I have is this cute leopard print bow a friend made for me a few months ago. But leopard print... that's not something you can wear all the time. Or is it? I will need comments; feedback on whether or not I can utilize this bow!

P.S Y'all won't believe how many pictures I had to take before getting these two! Smh. I feel ugly and I miss that red hair! :(

Beautiful Women...Inside and Out

1. Rae Rae

2. Bella

3. Ekpa

4. Monica

5. My amazing mama, most beautiful of them all.

Still I Rise

You may write me down in history
With your bitter, twisted lies,
You may trod me in the very dirt
But still, like dust, I'll rise.

Does my sassiness upset you?
Why are you beset with gloom?
'Cause I walk like I've got oil wells
Pumping in my living room.

Just like moons and like suns,
With the certainty of tides,
Just like hopes springing high,
Still I'll rise.

Did you want to see me broken?
Bowed head and lowered eyes?
Shoulders falling down like teardrops.
Weakened by my soulful cries.

Does my haughtiness offend you?
Don't you take it awful hard
'Cause I laugh like I've got gold mines
Diggin' in my own back yard.

You may shoot me with your words,
You may cut me with your eyes,
You may kill me with your hatefulness,
But still, like air, I'll rise.

Does my sexiness upset you?
Does it come as a surprise
That I dance like I've got diamonds
At the meeting of my thighs?

Out of the huts of history's shame
I rise
Up from a past that's rooted in pain
I rise
I'm a black ocean, leaping and wide,
Welling and swelling I bear in the tide.
Leaving behind nights of terror and fear
I rise
Into a daybreak that's wondrously clear
I rise
Bringing the gifts that my ancestors gave,
I am the dream and the hope of the slave.
I rise
I rise
I rise. 


That's a poem by Maya Angelou. Beautiful words. <3