I’m at a very good place in my life right now. I don’t remember the last time I felt truly down or even stressed out. It’s been a sunny ride all the way and I would be selfish not to share the tricks of this unending joy!
That’s why I have titled this post, “Tara’s Guidelines to Winning!”. LOL. Legooo!
A solid relationship with GOD
I was born into a Christian family and I have been brought up to honor God and put him first in everything I do. I was also brought up to brush after every meal, tidy my bed in the morning and shower twice a day. But I don’t do these things. What’s my point? Even though I have been a Christian and I was brought up with certain values for God, I haven’t always followed them. Especially in my time in college, it was easy to get up late, rush to the bathroom, get dressed, dash out, go to classes, hang out with friends, and crash at night without even saying one word to God all day!
Now I look back, it’s no wonder the craziness of school could affect me so badly at times. It’s no wonder I used to feel so down some days that the only way to feel better was a bottle of wine. Truth is so many Christians (youth especially) are Christian for the sake of religion. But what we have missed is that Christianity is not just a religion; it’s a relationship, a lifestyle. Since being back home, I have reevaluated my life and my priorities and knowing and loving God is now number one on my list.
It’s not enough to say it though. You have to actually do it. When you love someone, you don’t want to make them sad and you do things you know will make them happy. So with loving God and truly loving Him, there are SOOOOO many things we do that we really shouldn’t. I don’t need to go into them. Y’all know what I’m talking about! With knowing someone, you do research to find out about them, or talk to them and so with knowing God, you have to READ YOUR BIBLE. That’s how to get to know Him. You have to PRAY. That’s how you talk to Him.
Summary, when you draw closer to God, He will fill you with unexplainable joy and peace of mind. So much that not even the madness of the world can get to you. Trust me, I’ve been on this path only a few weeks and I have seen amazing results.
Surround yourself with people after the same things as you!
When you are moving with people who are headed in a different direction than you are, you can’t feel at ease. So if need be, write down the names of the people you chill with and in one word, describe what they are about. If that word doesn’t come close to what you are about, get moving! Birds of the same feather flock together. If you are trying to get your grades up and you chill with people that never study, duh! You are not winning. If you are trying to stop a bad habit and all your friends are on that habit, you are not winning.
This might not always apply though cause sometimes, you can rub off on someone. So if that’s your plan, to change someone, cool. But when you start to notice that rather than you changing this person, it’s the person changing you instead, don’t be foolish. RUN!!!
Take care of yourself
“Look good, feel good” is no joke. When you look nice on the outside, it will affect your psyche on the inside.
If you’re not happy with your weight, don’t sit whining about it. Do something about it! If a little make up will help you feel better, use some. I do not advocate looking like a drag queen though! Remember with some certain things, less is more. Eat well, exercise, dress nicely (doesn’t have to be flashy but wear clothes that flatter you) and take care of your hair. These little things will help the way you feel about yourself which will in turn affect how others see and treat you!
That’s about it. If you do these three things, you will be surprised how radically your life will turn around. Say goodbye to feeling low, drama and stress!
Much love to my avid blog readers. You guys are in my thoughts and prayers :*
xxx
