Sunday, November 8, 2009

Single and loving it?

This post is for LADIES. Guys, feel free to read though.

So when you first get out of a relationship, there are many phases. Some have got theirs really twisted in order but for me, it goes like this. 

First week or so, I am devastated, cry a lot, whether at the thought of the ex or when I see the ex. After that stage, comes the part where I am kinda numb, can't cry anymore cause I have literally exhausted all my tears. But I are still just as miserable as always. Only now its harder to express the emotion. Then a few months after, comes the part where I and the ex try to "be friends" but I realize I'm still in love and go back to being miserable and all.

Now if you are REALLY unlucky, the next stage is going to be your ex having a new girlfriend. Well during that stage, the tears you thought had disappeared, totally come back! You may cry a river the first time you see them together, another river when you hear how cute they are, and you will cry the Atlantic ocean out of your eyes when you see they are on "I love you" terms.

Well this is all the beginning. Depending on the person in question, the healing process starts to come. For me, that came at month 5. You stop crying, you stop seeing the ex as "the only one", you accept the new girlfriend, you even start a lil romance of your own but at that point, this time in your life is for YOU. It's all about YOU once again.

You do things for you, answer to no one, flirt with who you wanna flirt with, that healing period is blissful really. That's the part where we all say, "I'm single and loving it!".

Sadly, that part starts to fade. You start to feel lonely, you get tired of the random guys around you, you long for the steady relationship again. You long for the BOYFRIEND. Single and definitely not loving it. 

Make the best of the "Single and loving it!" phase. The next phase is just as depressing as the initial breaking up. 

4 comments:

Unknown said...

totally, off the hook T...you reali got this spot on...experience really is the best teacher..lol..

Unknown said...

I should think that you broke up five to seven months ago, right?

I usually say ('you probably will be able to determine if the guy hasn't come to stay, right from the start') don't date/court if you do not have the 'end in mind' i.e marriage!
For what other reason would you be in courtship or keep such relationship?
In most cases the guys are out for fun i.e they invariably get to break the heart of the female partner.

Tara said...

Obamalik, I think you're right! We should start thinking of the end before we start out in a relationship. If there is even a possibility that it will definitely not go near marriage, why bother? LOL

Tara said...

Heriju, I would kill you but I love you too much. And YES! Experience is the best teacher!