This post was inspired by a video I recently saw going by the same topic. A guy took it upon himself to educate people on relationships and point out the stupid mistakes people make while dating.
There are so many people who carry a relationship on top of their heads and it ends up weighing them down cause you not suppose to attach so much sentiment and use up so much energy for a relationship. Take me for example. I had this relationship that I basically treated like a marriage. As you can imagine, it didn't work out. You end giving more than you suppose to give and that's never good!
I don't want to call anybody out but I know people (most especially ladies!) who live with, cook for and wash for the boyfriend. I know the ones that hang around the boy's mama helping out in the house and of all that. It's good that you love your boyfriend and you are dedicated to him. Marriage may even be what you have in mind and that's why you feel all you do for him and all you give to him is okay. Well, it ain't! What you doing is called "doing the most" which basically means you doing all the things you should do as his WIFE before he even marries you!
Now, not all guys are jerks. Some of them will still marry you even after you have basically given them your all. But here is the part that people refuse to accept or realize. Most of them will not! Ever heard the phrase "why buy the cow when I can get the milk for free?" Well you are giving free milk! He is not going to settle with you after getting the milk for free. The girl who will take him from you is someone who hasn't given it all up. She didn't "do the most".
Another issue is the "(s)he cheated on me"! It's like saying your friend cheated on you. The person you saying cheated on you does not belong to you. So they didn't cheat on you. Cheating is a term for married couples and y'all stole it. Simple and short.
So to round up, as my Naija people would put it, boyfriend no be husband. If there's no ring on your finger, you are single. Treat your relationships with the right amount of energy and the boyfriend or girlfriend will appreciate you, and it could lead to something great, rather than a nasty breakup.
Watch the video with the link below and hear it from the master himself! X
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