NYC, the city of my dreams

So y'all know I been so excited about going to New York and dreaming of all the fun I would have there. I am back now and it was just the maddest weekend ever!!! It was like an actual reality show; could have been called Obiagos Take On New York. Lmao! Well Ekpa was along for trip so not really just Obiagos.

Anyways, we did a lot of cool stuff. We went to a club, went to a bbq with lots of sexy boys (oh my stars!), sightseeing in Times Square and shopping in Brooklyn. All in all, the social events were a lot of good fun. We also had some dramatic moments, as is sure of any group of young women together in a small space. LOL. All were sorted out at the end though.

From this weekend, I further improved on my "tolerating people skills". I also reaffirmed that though family may bug you more than friends do, they are they very best and the people that will always be there for you! This NYC weekend was classic to say the least. I would do it ALL over and over AGAIN!

Obias Obiago, Rachel Obiago, Bella Obiago, Ekpa Eyoma and Jabari Beaton, thank you all for an amazing weekend in my beloved city, New York! :*

If you're not married, then you're single!

Controversial heading? Or just the plain simple truth people refuse to see?

This post was inspired by a video I recently saw going by the same topic. A guy took it upon himself to educate people on relationships and point out the stupid mistakes people make while dating.

There are so many people who carry a relationship on top of their heads and it ends up weighing them down cause you not suppose to attach so much sentiment and use up so much energy for a relationship. Take me for example. I had this relationship that I basically treated like a marriage. As you can imagine, it didn't work out. You end giving more than you suppose to give and that's never good!

I don't want to call anybody out but I know people (most especially ladies!) who live with, cook for and wash for the boyfriend. I know the ones that hang around the boy's mama helping out in the house and of all that. It's good that you love your boyfriend and you are dedicated to him. Marriage may even be what you have in mind and that's why you feel all you do for him and all you give to him is okay. Well, it ain't! What you doing is called "doing the most" which basically means you doing all the things you should do as his WIFE before he even marries you!

Now, not all guys are jerks. Some of them will still marry you even after you have basically given them your all. But here is the part that people refuse to accept or realize. Most of them will not! Ever heard the phrase "why buy the cow when I can get the milk for free?" Well you are giving free milk! He is not going to settle with you after getting the milk for free. The girl who will take him from you is someone who hasn't given it all up. She didn't "do the most".

Another issue is the "(s)he cheated on me"! It's like saying your friend cheated on you. The person you saying cheated on you does not belong to you. So they didn't cheat on you. Cheating is a term for married couples and y'all stole it. Simple and short.

So to round up, as my Naija people would put it, boyfriend no be husband. If there's no ring on your finger, you are single. Treat your relationships with the right amount of energy and the boyfriend or girlfriend will appreciate you, and it could lead to something great, rather than a nasty breakup.

Watch the video with the link below and hear it from the master himself! X

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=p7BENaDDZlw

Private Torture

Private torture

Its you and I

You're showing me things

No one else sees

Tracing my body,

Your fingers all over

A special kind of torture

That's just for me.

I now see life in a different light

You're touching not just my body,

My soul and my mind too

In this place, we're all alone

Dancing to a tune only we share

Private torture, its you and I

Private torture, just for me.

Summer's in the air

Ah Summer! Summer is in the air. Summer love, summer clothes, summer hair...summer trends I all love. My summer holiday has been a long one. It started in May (yeah I am allergic to summer school) and it still ain't over! It's gonna end in August.

I spent the first half of summer in Abuja, my city, being conspicuous, avoiding drama and being in love. LOL. After a hectic spring semester, it was necessary for me to recuperate! The second half of summer which is still currently going on, is going down in United States of Crazy also known as America.

First stop was Delaware (suburbia to the core, quiet and too boring for my personality), and second stop was Maryland. Maryland is going aight. Since I been here, I have witnessed a mini earthquake, gone on a lot of shopping sprees and nearly had a meltdown from people over age 40 pissing me off. LOL. I am happy to report that both Delaware and Maryland have a high score on the hot guys meter. Funny enough, Delaware is still doing better in that department!

There is a place where the hot guy count will shoot off the radar though. It's going down this weekend! NYC baby! No parents, no aunties, no uncles. 5 days of unsupervised fun and madness. Yes boss! I CAN'T WAIT! Might need a fake ID though. LMAO!

Hope y'all are having an amazing summer wherever you are. Make the best of it! It's like your birthdays and Christmas; only comes ONCE a year! ;)

Beauty

Beauty is defined by so many things and it also has many definitions. A dictionary I looked up the word "beautiful" defined it as ANYTHING or ANYONE that pleases one's mind or senses aesthetically. This definition therefore means that anything or anyone could be beautiful to someone.

As an ignorant person (that I once was. LOL), I would argue with that and say some things and some people can just never be beautiful no matter how you look at it. I know better now. When I look at people now, I try to find what could make them beautiful. It doesn't have to be their looks. It could be the heart, the musical way they walk, the smile they give even though the world they are smiling at doesn't deserve it. Little things like that make one beautiful.

Also, looking for the beauty around you can make a day much more pleasant. After all, beautiful things make one smile. So look for the simple beauty in everyday. And it doesn't matter what you consider beautiful. Anything or anyone can be beautiful. X

Changes

Been a while I was on here. Been waiting for something to inspire me but then I decided I should just come here, read old posts and something would come to me. I was right! I want to talk about changes, mainly cause since my last post, a lot has changed with me so I felt I should update y'all.

Two months ago, I was fragile and emotionally broken. I was not in a good place. Posts like 911, When It Rains, etc, must have shown that clearly. Well well, good news is, that phase is over. Nothing like a change of environment and people to change your outlook on life! That time, I was detoxing. Getting rid of the people that didn't add anything to me, or even worse, only took me from me. Not sure if the process is totally completed but I have certainly made headway. Serious headway.

I am stronger, better, smarter and definitely more grown up. And even though I will return to AUN in the fall (yes, that didn't change unfortunately), I know it will be different cause I am different now.

Remember y'all! Don't be scared of change unless you ready to die. Those two are the only constants in life. X!