The Goodbye

Hey guys.


This is my very last post :( I've run out of things to say LOL. If you notice, recently it's just been videos from You Tube I keep blogging. I tried a new series (These Men) but as you can tell, that hasn't gone well cause a series needs to be followed up. LOL


I started this blog about three years ago (October 2008) and it's been a blast sharing my boring yet strangely fascinating life with family, friends and of course, the random people.


To all those who've left sweet comments and been inspired by anything I've written, thank you so much! And for those who are for any reason entertained by Tara, I will still be on You Tube making videos with Bee till I finally become famous. Subscribe to our YouTube channel here Tara and Bella on You Tube.


Au revoir! Auf Wiedersehen! Até a vista! Adiós! Goodbye!!!


xoxo

Nicki Minaj Sings 'Super Bass' with Sophia Grace (Full Version)

When I saw her first video singing "Super Bass" http://youtu.be/C7hTAp6KrGY, I knew not only would she be a star, she would get to meet Nicki Minaj! Trust Ellen to make it happen.

The dulling in my life must cease! I need to do an intense video so Ellen notices me. You Tube seems to be the new gate way to fame (Justin Bieber comes to mind eh?) xxx

Tara and Bella; Sister Act

This song is one of the songs we seem to harmonize flawlessly. More tasking songs coming up :)

My Very First Halloween!

Is it crazy that I am 20 yrs old and this was my first time to celebrate Halloween? I guess not! I’m Nigerian, we don’t do that shii. LOL.

But being in Accra (and being with a Halloween enthusiast, my new friend Sarah) I finally celebrated Halloween for the first time ever!

I was Catwoman (a sophisticated one LOL), tail, whip and all, Bee was a Flapper Girl from the 20s (I actually need to find out what a Flapper girl is!) and Sarah was a Captain though I kept mixing her up to be a sailor. Same thing in my book! 

We had Halloween cake, LOTS OF CANDY AND ALCOHOL, and guests over at Sarah’s, all Sarah’s friends. One of em was Dracula, her boyfriend Collins (I know! Weird coincidence) was a vampire, etc.

After chilling and getting sloshed at Sarah’s, we set out to a club called Bella Roma where a wicked Halloween party was going down! I haven’t been clubbing in a long time because I basically got over it cause of how much it sucks…but Bella Roma wasn’t bad at all! Great music, crazy costumes, I had a blast! Two more clubs after Bella Roma but I had had enough. Thankfully, both clubs weren’t as hot as Bella Roma so our party didn’t spend much time at either.

Halloween was really great. I think this may become a tradition ;)

Tara & Bella: Random

Me and my partner in crime with our fifth video. Loving You Tube and if we could just get some more subscribers and comments on our videos, we would love it even more!

So please watch, like, comment and most importantly, SUBSCRIBE!!! We will keep the entertainment coming ;)

Beyoncé - Love On Top

Another fantastic video from Bey's new album. Love this song!

Beyoncé - Countdown (Official Video)

Beyonce's new video, Countdown. She looks so amazing and it's like such a fun video! I love Beyonce! :)

These Men

Those kind of women that are overly paranoid about men. The moment a man smiles at them, they suddenly entertain ideas in their heads that this man wants them. A man can't be nice to these women without them thinking "What does he want?". Why do these women behave this way? Feeling overly excited just because a man happens to glance at them! Some of us would say they are flighty, or seeking attention perhaps. But some of them are...

Three year old Sadie looks around for Greg, her cousin. Sadie, her baby brother, her mother and father are visiting her uncle's and she is enjoying a game of hide and seek with her two older cousins. Caleb is 14 years old and his younger brother Greg, is twelve.

Sadie feels closer to Greg. He pays her more attention, listens to her random chatter about dolls and when Michael her baby brother arrives, he is the only one who still seems to treat Sadie like the baby she's always been accustomed to being. The only time Greg upsets Sadie is during hide and seek because she can never find him and even at such a young age, she is already very competitive.

Sadie steps into the boys' room and she is sure she can hear breathing coming from the cupboard. Excited that she has finally found Greg for once, she creeps up to the cupboard steadily and opens it yelling, "I've found you!". Out comes Greg, sweating and panting. "Good girl Sadie! I thought you wouldn't. Come here".

He pulls her close to him, turns her onto the cupboard and kisses his three year old cousin with unbridled passion. As he crushes his lips onto Sadie's, his hands pinning her little body down, Sadie wonders what her cousin is doing to her. She is scared and his force hurts a little but she knows, loves and trusts Greg so she tries to stay calm and let him finish. While Greg sloppily kisses his cousin, his mother calls for him and just before she steps in the room, Greg lets go off Sadie and acts normal. "Here you kids are. Sadie, your mum and dad are leaving. Greg, come and say bye to Uncle and Auntie". "Okay mummy" Greg replies and bounds off after his mother.

That is the first time Sadie learns not to trust men as she thinks to herself "if what Greg was doing to me was alright, why did he stop so suddenly before Auntie came in the room?"

*To be continued*

Husband Material

This one's for the guys.

Wife Material

Ladies, you need to watch this!!!

The Way I See It...

Social networking was intended to be a good thing but so many people now use it to display their ignorance. On Twitter, #thewayiseeit is trending and imagine my surprise that quite a number of people tweeted things that made sense! Here are some real nice ones I wanna share. I'll just do my favorite ten in no particular order.

#ThewayIseeit;

1. Everything in this life is temporary. Keep your eyes on the price; getting to heaven! That's eternal.
2. Excuses are present where effort isn't.
3. Positive thinking equals positive results. Keep God first and you'll be blessed.
4. You Have To Give Respect To Get It.
5. In order to be successful you must have tough skin. If a few haters can rattle you then you not ready for success.
6. You shouldn't hold onto someone that doesn't want to be held.
7. Your friends are a reflection of you. They should make you better. You are the company you keep.
8. Social networks don't mess up relationships. Twitter & Facebook just give you a platform & people display their own ignorance.
9. Love all, trust few & do wrong to no one.
10. You can't make someone change; they have to want to.

(Most of them are retweets. I only take credit for no. 1)

Xxx

Beyonce "Why Don't You Love Me" video starring Tara & Bella!!!

So today, we decided to do something fun and Bee came up with the idea that we should shoot a video to Beyonce's "Why Don't You Love Me".

We made up, got dressed and filmed performances to the song with Kimmy alone! Kimmy is my MacBook for those not knowing. After filming, I edited the shots using Final Cut Pro and viola! :D

Please watch, LIKE and COMMENT! We spent all day on this project. It's the least y'all can do! Hope you like xxx

Flaws and All

How many have seen the Tara and Bella video on Flaws? Did you like it? We've gotten some good feedback and before I start, I just wanna say a big thank you to all those who watched the video and got back to us. Much appreciated. If you haven't seen it, check it out here!!!

In this world where majority are dying to be perfect, I think it's important for those of us that have our heads right to let people know the following things.

1. No one is perfect. Even Beyonce who I think is absolutely gorgeous complains constantly about her ears. Everyone has something on their bodies that they would trade and what's funnier, everyone has something on their body that they hate meanwhile, someone else absolutely loves it!

2. There is only one you and you were made the way you were for a special purpose. So stop trying to change so much. If you ask me, what people should work on changing about themselves is what's inside and not what is on the outside. A beautiful soul has much more value than a beautiful body or face. If that sounds like blab to you, consider this; when you die (which we all will someday!), that body you are so obsessed with making perfect will be buried in the sand and rot. Yes, your body, God made it out of sand and it will go back to being sand eventually no matter how good looking it is.

3. Confidence makes you sexy. Have you ever been out with that friend you know you look much better than yet she gets all the attention? It's the way she carries herself! Men are attracted to women who are confident with themselves. When you feel sexy, you are automatically sexy (to someone).

4. One man's trash, next man's treasure. This isn't to discount the last point but we do admit that some men are just shallow and you can be confident all you want but if you are more than a size 4, they won't send you. Well that's them! Don't let anyone put you down. What they don't see, someone else will. In this life, everyone won't like you. Accept that.

5. Love yourself. It starts with YOU. If you can't accept that body, own that flab and crooked nose, then you'll be miserable for a long time. Ignore the "reality" shows you see of people getting plastic surgery and suddenly having this new look on life. It's BULL. It starts now. You have to love you whichever way you are.

So my lovelies, these are the things we must know! I was inspired to do this by a post I just read on one of my favorite blogs. Check it out here. She goes as far as actually putting up pictures of her body as it is. Kudos girl! For me, I'll just list out the flaws of my body; flaws I'm learning to love/ accept.

*My gap tooth. I've never liked it and I often consider using braces to close the gap.
*Lips. I feel like my lips could be a little less thicker.
*Ears. I have ears that stick out but these I now love cause my Daddy has the same ears so it's our thing :)
*#TeamSuckBelleMakeTheShirtFine!!! Even with my recent weight loss, I still haven't been able to get rid of all the stomach fat!
*Butt. It's soft and that is nice but I wish there was more there. LOL

So you see? We ALL have flaws. Own yours! Xxx

Showing off my gap-tooth :)

RIP Charlie Wilson & Levi

If there's anything that is sure in this life, it is death.
So why are we taken by surprise when people leave us?
Probably because we know it happens but we still never expect it to happen to us or those we know.

If there is anything we surely know about the heart of man,
That would be its capacity for wickedness.
Yet, man's wickedness surprises me all the time.

I've tried to prepare myself for horrible things 'cause all is not rosy in life.
But how do you prepare for someone you know, someone you saw almost everyday,
Getting shot in the head and left on the road to die?

How do you prepare for getting the news?
How do you stop yourself crying even as you know it won't bring him back?
How do you say "there's a time to live and a time to die?" when you never expected his time to come so soon?

Life is so volatile.
That's why we shouldn't ever take anything or anyone for granted.
Live everyday like it's the last, love everyone like you'll never see them again.

RIP Charles (Charlie Wilson) & Levi, gunned down September 4th, 2011.

L-R: Charles and Levi

Things We should Know before (or by) 30

I just read this post off "Dark Matters", a blog by Chinelo Onwualu. It's titled Things I Know at 30. 
Not only is she an amazing writer, this particular post is real good and I think, a must read for we young ladies so I decided to share.

Enjoy! xxx

Things I Know at 30- Chinelo Onwualu

Tara & Bella discuss Flaws

Hi guys! Been a while. I am seriously lacking in inspiration to write but I have been enjoying time in front of the camera. This is a video me and my sister did sometime last month and editing and uploading has taken FOREVER but it is finally done :)

Please watch with an open mind. We are not Oprah, Tyra nor Mo (from Moments with Mo) and we don't think we are! This is for fun and like we said, we will continue if and only if you guys like it and LET US KNOW!

Enjoy. Bella gets deep from the middle all the way to the end! LOL

P.s I did the editing myself so critique that too so I can get better :*

Kim and I- Left Out

I'm watching Kourtney and Kim Take New York and it's the episode where Khloe comes into town for the opening of NYC Dash. Do not judge me! I'm on a long holiday in ABUJA and I have a limited social life. What else will I do??? Anyways, Khloe and Kourt are super close and Khloe's arrival has Kim feeling left out. For those who watch the show, you know Kim's the sorta quiet one that tends to blend in the background...when you ignore her behind and amazing looks!

Anyhoooo, I can totally relate to how poor Kimmy was feeling in this episode. That was my life in my final semester in college. You see, me and my AUN bff were super close and sort of fenced everyone out. We were in our own little world. In my final semester however, our little world had guests and one was particularly invasive. Not only was she our roommate, she and my bff became so close I started to feel left out.

Check this. In this episode, Khloe and Kourtney ditch Kim to go and check out the store even though she was right behind em. She only went to get her purse. By the time she comes out, they are gone and Kourt's excuse when Kim calls her is "I thought you were tired so we left without you". This happened to me too! We all go to a party and I'm outside waiting for em when we are all partied out but somehow, they leave me and head back to school thinking "I'd already left". Why would I leave and not tell them if we all came together?

There are so many other instances I felt proper left out and sad but just like Kim, I never confronted em about it and I didn't have a Scott (Kourt's boyfriend who eventually tells Kourt and Khloe how Kim is feeling) to speak for me. Instead I just let myself withdraw into a sad shell.

I'm not telling this story cause I'm still harbouring ill feelings over the whole thing oh! Gosh, that would be stupid. It was a while ago and I've never been good at holding on to stuff anyways. Just the episode reminded me, and my boredom prompted me to write about it.

P.S The Kardashians are much but my gosh, are they an amazing looking bunch!

Tara's Guidelines to WINNING!

I’m at a very good place in my life right now. I don’t remember the last time I felt truly down or even stressed out. It’s been a sunny ride all the way and I would be selfish not to share the tricks of this unending joy!

That’s why I have titled this post, “Tara’s Guidelines to Winning!”. LOL. Legooo!

A solid relationship with GOD

I was born into a Christian family and I have been brought up to honor God and put him first in everything I do. I was also brought up to brush after every meal, tidy my bed in the morning and shower twice a day. But I don’t do these things. What’s my point? Even though I have been a Christian and I was brought up with certain values for God, I haven’t always followed them. Especially in my time in college, it was easy to get up late, rush to the bathroom, get dressed, dash out, go to classes, hang out with friends, and crash at night without even saying one word to God all day!

Now I look back, it’s no wonder the craziness of school could affect me so badly at times. It’s no wonder I used to feel so down some days that the only way to feel better was a bottle of wine. Truth is so many Christians (youth especially) are Christian for the sake of religion. But what we have missed is that Christianity is not just a religion; it’s a relationship, a lifestyle. Since being back home, I have reevaluated my life and my priorities and knowing and loving God is now number one on my list.

It’s not enough to say it though. You have to actually do it. When you love someone, you don’t want to make them sad and you do things you know will make them happy. So with loving God and truly loving Him, there are SOOOOO many things we do that we really shouldn’t. I don’t need to go into them. Y’all know what I’m talking about! With knowing someone, you do research to find out about them, or talk to them and so with knowing God, you have to READ YOUR BIBLE. That’s how to get to know Him. You have to PRAY. That’s how you talk to Him.

Summary, when you draw closer to God, He will fill you with unexplainable joy and peace of mind. So much that not even the madness of the world can get to you. Trust me, I’ve been on this path only a few weeks and I have seen amazing results.

Surround yourself with people after the same things as you!

When you are moving with people who are headed in a different direction than you are, you can’t feel at ease. So if need be, write down the names of the people you chill with and in one word, describe what they are about. If that word doesn’t come close to what you are about, get moving! Birds of the same feather flock together. If you are trying to get your grades up and you chill with people that never study, duh! You are not winning. If you are trying to stop a bad habit and all your friends are on that habit, you are not winning. 

This might not always apply though cause sometimes, you can rub off on someone. So if that’s your plan, to change someone, cool. But when you start to notice that rather than you changing this person, it’s the person changing you instead, don’t be foolish. RUN!!!

Take care of yourself

“Look good, feel good” is no joke. When you look nice on the outside, it will affect your psyche on the inside. 

If you’re not happy with your weight, don’t sit whining about it. Do something about it! If a little make up will help you feel better, use some. I do not advocate looking like a drag queen though! Remember with some certain things, less is more. Eat well, exercise, dress nicely (doesn’t have to be flashy but wear clothes that flatter you) and take care of your hair. These little things will help the way you feel about yourself which will in turn affect how others see and treat you!

That’s about it. If you do these three things, you will be surprised how radically your life will turn around. Say goodbye to feeling low, drama and stress! 

Much love to my avid blog readers. You guys are in my thoughts and prayers :* 

xxx

My Weight Loss Tips

Someone was kind enough to ask me for advice on how to lose weight! I blush. LOL. I replied her comment but I thought I would just share with everyone else my weight loss tips so here goes!

1. It's a painful truth but not eating helps you lose weight! Since I don't want to come here and advertise anorexia or starvation, I would say EAT LESS. If you can cut down your portions or even how many times a day you eat, you will see a difference.

2. Soda is the devil. And so is diet coke! I pity people when I see em taking "diet" soda cause that is a load of crap. As long as it is soda, just stay away from it. And this doesn't go to just people tryna lose weight. In general, soda is not good for you. (Coca Cola, no vex. I have to tell my people the truth!)

3. Exercise is good for you. I hate exercise so I stick to talking walks (jog occasionally), aerobics and swimming. Also, you'd be surprised how much calories you can burn turning up some music and breaking it down! If you can do gyming, more grease to your elbows! I hope to be like you someday :)

4. Last but not the least, while you do all the above, TAKE YOUR MIND OFF YOUR WEIGHT. You know what they say about watching a kettle on fire. That water will take forever to boil! So get your mind off losing weight and just live your life. You'll try something on and viola! It'll be too big for you :)

I hope my very mundane tips will help. They've worked for me anyway. X

On my mind... Natural hair, BET Awards and Planking

I love white wine. It is a beautiful thing. Ekpa suggested it cause I am doing my big chop at last but I have started sipping on it while watching the 2011 BET Awards. Again I love white wine.

I took out my weave today and I am finally going to let go of my permed ends today. Some fool on Twitter was dissing team natural hair today. But why? No one asked you to do it by force but to go dissing those who are doing it? Jobless of you. I'm loving my baby natural curls and no beefing fool on any social network can change that! {Watch the picture space for a photo of my natural hair after my big chop. Unless it's ugly!}

So anyways, I am currently watching the BET awards. OMG! Music was sent from God though. And those who play with it are...yeah fools. That seems to be all I got tonight. LOL. But really though, Mary J Blige and Anita Baker, Weezy, Chris Brown, Jill Scott, Alicia Keys and Bruno Mars...list goes on! Still waiting on Queen Bee and Kelly Rowland's performances. But so far, I am loving this awards. The winners too are making sense apart from that awkward moment they hand Best Female R&B award to Rihanna. Haven't gotten to it yet but I'm hoping the wine makes it easier not to spark. Btw, Kevin Hart is proper cruise. LMAO!

Eh heh. This planking thing. But really though? What is going on with this silly world we live in? STOP PLANKING. It's more retarded than it is funny. And no, being retarded is not cool. Dumb asses lying on the floor and taking pictures then posting em. Asin really though! Shaking my head oh. I'm shaking it for you. Stop it. Don't be foolish.

Ok bye.

Xxx

30 Day Challenge; THE LAST DAY!

Last day of June! Nice nice NOICE.

Highs and lows of the month.

I'll just do a high and a low cause my mind is drawing blank. My high of this month was definitely leaving AUN once and for all and coming back to Abuja to a beautiful new home. I looove our new place. It is fabo!

My low...okay here I can do lows. LOL. There was the uncomfortable period with my sprained ankle, there was having to deal with Biology and being in school past the month of May and of course the falling sick.

That's about it! I just want to say thank you to those who left comments or any form of feedback. I love you guys :)

30 Day Challenge, signing out!

Xxx

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30 Day Challenge (Day 28 & 29)

June ends tomorrow! Can you believe it? I still remember the first day of the year and now here we are at the end of the first half! This time is sure flying by at an alarming rate.

I'm blogging from my phone; it feels so weird and tiny! Forgive any stupid mistakes I may make.

Day 28; Something that you miss.

Right now, I miss being well more than anything else. I've been down with malaria since Thursday last week and it went away after I took some drugs but yesterday, I started feeling sick again :( So that's it, I miss being my energetic and healthy self. Taking it slow sucks.

Day 29; Goals for the next 30 days

Basically, I'm just going to live life one day at a time. I'll still be going to work, still working on the beach body and hopefully, get a lot of, or pretty decent studio time.

I'm too weak for long talks so goodbyes!

Xxx

30 Day Challenge (Days 23- 27)

Sigh. I need to keep this brief before it becomes a book or an essay. Lol.

Day 23; Give pictures of 5 guys who are famous and you find attractive.

Sigh. These men, these men.

Day 24; Your favorite movie and what it's about.

My favorite movie at the moment (cause I don't have a main one) is Just Go With It. It's a romantic comedy with Adam Sandler and Jennifer Aniston. Adam Sandler is a plastic surgeon and Jennifer Aniston is his assistant. I'm not going to go into what the movie is about cause then I'd be killing the purpose of Google. Allow this 30 Day Challenge and it's wahala. Anyhoos, it's a great movie and y'all should see it if you haven't already.

Day 25; Someone who fascinates you and why.

Easy. Bella, my sister. Why? Cause she is emosh (that's Rae's slang for 'emotional'. Yes, my sisters are deep people). Like I said I'm keeping it short so I'll just show you an example of Bee at her prime.

A tweet of Bee's from earlier today;

"So Rihanna won Best Female at the BET awards. In a category Beyonce and Jennifer Hudson were in. These people don't respect that Jesus wept. Cool"

She said she ended it with "cool" cause of the character limit. LOL. I can't. I just can't.

Day 26; What kind of person attracts you

Someone... laid back, loves a good time, not scary to look at, funny, not spiteful or malicious, a KIND person, a caring person, a REAL person and lastly, someone who knows and loves GOD.

Day 27; A problem that you have had.

Lol. Dumb question. Lemme see... oooh! I have a problem with my boyfriends having total trust in me... NOT! Do other girls have this problem or is it just me?

I dey come!

My 30 Day Challenge though. Smh. I've missed four whole days now. Well. been sick with malaria since my last post so I haven't exactly been on "omg, I need to do my 30 day challenge!". Just been focused on getting better which thankfully, I am now. Not a 100% but almost there.

New week, busy as a bee again. Wonder if I'll ever get to it but I hate to start something and not finish it so I'm sure I will. I DEY COME!

Rihanna won best R&B Female Artist when Beyonce, Jennifer Hudson and Marcia Ambrio... bla bla bla were in the same category. I can't. I can't take it anymore.

I have to go for my morning walk now. Peace peoples! x

30 Day Challenge (Day 20, 21 & 22)

Since I started work on Monday, my routine is pretty basic.

Wake up, go jogging, shower and get ready for work, work till 5pm, meet up with Bee and Obi wherever they may be for a little chill time, go back home, and CRASH. I literally do not have time for anything else but the aforementioned. The life of an intern working 9 to 5.

Anyways, this would explain why I have slacked on the 30 Day Challenge. That and the fact that I get no feedback! Seriously, I know people are reading this. I can see it! So just comment for the love of God! It cannot be THAT hard to.

Well...back to the 30 day Challenge. 7 more days left. June's gone by pretty quickly hasn't it?

Day 20; How important you think education is.

I think it is pretty important but I also think one can function and make tons of money without it. So it makes you wonder; if we are getting educated so we can get good jobs and make money, those who have made money without education must be cracking up at all the suffering and stress we go through in the name of learning.

Day 21; One of your favourite shows.

I am not a TV or movie person like I must have said here, once or twice. But there are some pretty amazing TV shows that I love. I wish the question was "some of your favourite shows" cause picking just one is kinda tough. Still, as I have to name one, I have to give it to the ever classic FRIENDS.

I can't even choose a favorite character cause I love them all! Rachel is adorable and ditsy, Phoebe is proper WEIRD, Monica gives me cruise, Joey is dumb in an endearing way, Ross cracks me up and Chandler...sigh. Chandler is just deep. Love his sarcasm. I wish I had a group of Friends like these guys but I am not sure which of the girls I would be. I have a little bit of all three girls in me!

Which of the FRIENDS cast members could you be? (See now, a QUESTION. Meaning ANSWERS/REPLIES by way of COMMENTS would be appreciated!)

Day 22; How have you changed in the past two years?

HA! A LOT. A WHOLE LOT. I have to start getting ready for work so I'll make this short.

1. I've dropped some pounds and still working on dropping more.
2. I cut my hair last year, then 5 months after, decided to go natural.
3. Tattoos and piercings...
4. I've reshuffled my friends and the people I associate myself with. BEST CHANGE YET!
5. I've learned to take my life seriously but not so seriously that I forget to enjoy it.
6. I'm happier now and I have better peace of mind.

2009 me

2011 me

I will not miss today's (Day 23) challenge. It's a yummy one ;) lAT3RS!

Xxx



Update

What's new...

1. I'm home now. Finally away from evil clenches of Yola and AUN. Praise be to God!
2. I rejoined Twitter. Bee's tweets finally did it.
3. I start my internship tomorrow. To freaking morrow!!! I need more chilling time man.
4. I've started job hunting. I don't want to be an unemployed graduate.

That's it.

Don't worry. Things will happen and I'll get interesting again.

xxx

Happy Father's Day!

Taking responsibility isn't easy. Some people spend their entire lives running away from their responsibilities either cause they can't handle them or because they just can't be bothered. Being a father is one of the biggest responsibilities there is. You play a role in shaping a person's life! You provide for them, protect them, love them, teach them and advice them.

We've all heard the phrase "daddy issues" and while it may sound like a load of crap to some, truth is people who have fathers that didn't do right by them are more often that not, extremely MESSED UP.

Today is a special day to appreciate the men who stepped up and raised their kid(s). They've paid the bills, bought birthday presents and put presents under the tree at Christmas, given their love, corrected us when we've made mistakes, disciplined us, turned frowns to smiles, made us laugh when we want to cry and encouraged us through all that we do.

Happy Father's Day to all the amazing dads out there! xxx

Bee and Papa

P.S I have a picture of my dad holding me in the hospital the day after I was born but I am too lazy to get up, look for it, scan it and then upload it.

30 Day Challenge (Day 17, 18 & 19)

There is no rule you have to do this daily right? As long as you go through all the days at least. That should count for something. Lol.

Day 17; Your highs and lows of the past year

I'll start with highs.
*Meeting and falling for my boyfriend. I love being in love :)
*Summer last year; got to see family I hadn't seen in a while and so on.
*Getting trimmer and finer. LOL
*Turning 20. It's rather nice not to have an age that ends with "teen"
*GRADUATING!!!
*And finally, getting rid of all the extra baggage in my life, literally and figuratively speaking.

Now the lows...
*Falling for Colin. Yes, love is a high and a low if you ask me!
*Realizing certain people in my life were hurting me more than they were helping me.
*Extended periods of time in Yola (LOL.That's the only way I know how to put it).

Thank God I've had more highs than lows! If I was doing this list a few years back, oh my days.

Day 18; Your beliefs

Shoo. Beliefs on what? I really do need to contact the fellow who put this 30 day challenge together. My beliefs...

I believe everyone has the ability to make themselves happy. I believe in love. I believe Michael Jackson never touched little boys; they were just pure sleepovers. I believe that if nobody talks about you, it's worse than when they do. I BELIEVE IN HATERS. I believe there's a difference between love and true love and you only get the latter from God and your parents (or children). Humans aren't really capable. I believe it's easy to feel lonely but it's just as easy not to. Lastly, I believe in ME. I believe in my future, my very bright future.

Day 19; Disrespecting your parents

I'm guessing what is expected is my view on disrespecting parents. Funny I get to this on Father's day. Yes, today is Father's Day for those of you who didn't know.

Anyways, I think disrespecting your parents is the worst. I don't like to disrespect anyone in the first place, talk less of older people and TALK LESS of your PARENTS. The people who brought you into this world, nutured you and loved you UNCONDITIONALLY. I feel that if you disrespect your parents, you disrespect God and even your own self. I also feel there is a karmic reward for disrespecting parents; when you have your own kids, they won't respect you too!

Eleven more days left in my challenge (and in the month). Is it just me or is time flying at a crazy pace this year?!

xxx

30 Day Challenge (Day 14, 15 & 16)

I have missed two days in a row. That never happens but I been busy and life gets in the way of blogging as we all know! Anyways...

Day 14; Your earliest memory

I was about 3 years old and my mum was sick. Our help at that time was told to bring some hot water in a bowl to my mum's room. What for, I'm not exactly sure. So as the maid was coming into the room with the bowl of hot water, she was less than careful and ended up spilling the water... on my little sister Bella who was just a teeny weeny cute two year old! I can actually still remember when they brought her back from the hospital, purple and crying :( I was very sad till she got better!

Day 15; Your favorite Tumblrs

I love Tumblr! I definitely don't miss Twitter with it. And no, I won't share my Tumblr. I'm enjoying the privacy on it. Well my favorite Tumblrs are...

Love Like Ecstasy
Fifth Avenue Prince
http://thequeenbey.tumblr.com/
And mine of course :)

Day 16; Your views on mainstream music

Frankly, I am not a fan. I prefer old classic music. I like music with true meaning, not just talking nonsense on a mad beat which is what majority of mainstream music is.

That's it! I'll try not to miss anymore days.
xxx

30 Day Challenge (Day 13)

Day 13; Somewhere you'd like to move or visit.

New York

I LOVE New York. Everytime I've been, I had a blast. It's vibrant and exciting and just my kinda place. I love the shopping in NY too! I definitely want to live in New York sometime in my life.

A nice apartment with an amazing view ;)

A Quick Reminder...

*Stolen from Colin's phone ;)*

30 day Challenge (Day 11 & 12)

Day 11: Put your iPod on shuffle and write 10 songs that pop up.

*Drake- I'm Ready For You
*Lil Wayne ft. Kanye West- Lollipop Remix
*Celine Dion- If Walls Could Talk
*Celine Dion- All By Myself
*Lil Wayne & Juelz Santana- Bad Side
*Lil Wayne- Run This Town
*Lil Wayne- Banned From TV
*Boyz II Men- You Make Me Feel
*Drake- The Resistance
*Beyonce- Get Me Bodied

Day 12: Bullet Your Whole Day

*Woke up
*Went back to bad
*Woke up again
*Went to town with Colin to get snacks
*Went back to his room
*Ate
*Went back to bed
*Woke up again (LOL)
*Watched a movie
*Tumbled (this means I was on Tumblr. Not actually tumbling about)
*Went back to sleep
*Woke up
*Now watching another movie and browsing.

Am I having a lazy day or what?! It's summer baby ;)

Summer 2011...Legooo!

So summer school's finally over! :D

I wrote my Biology final exam today; it was better than I expected. I also said goodbye to the folks at work today. I would be on the next plane home but I am making some clothes with my trusty tailor here so when they are ready, then I shall be out.

I think this is going to be a GREAT summer. I go back to a new house (my family moved just about a week ago) and I can't wait to see the new place. Sounds fab from all they've told me. Also can't wait to get back to CIVILIZATION where I can decide to go see a movie, go bowling or swimming ANYTIME I please! Don't know how I've lived in Yola all these years. It is ABSOLUTELY boring!

I'll be working, a proper internship at a production company but it'll be for 4-6 hours a day and it's something I enjoy so I doubt I'll have complains. Besides, all play and no work makes Tara useless and fat.

There is also the issue of summer love :) A new summer romance is exciting. I think it is healthy to have a new boyfriend every summer. Unless the one you have is great, then you can use him more than a summer I guess. Yes, I am aware that I said "use him". For this summer, I would like to make use of a tall and dark, well built fellow that isn't clingy and possessive. Also, he needs to be photogenic cause I love to take photos.

Photos :) The pool, ice cream, movies, SPA, SHOPPING, LAZING about, sleeping late, catching cruise with Bee and Obi... yes this summer will be fun!

P.s I finally got amazing purple nail polish today! Can't wait to use it.

P.s again Cookie's bday is tomoro! The big 21. I changed my mind about clubbing tonight (sprained foot is still healing) but I have a bottle of vodka for the occasion. Hope I don't have a hangover to deal with tomoro.

Xxx

30 Day Challenge (Day 10)

Day 10; Discuss your first love and your first kiss.

My first kiss was with my first love. He is a cool guy by guy standards and we started off as friends before the lovey dovey feelings came up. I was just 14 when we started going out! He was 14 too. We had fun. When the thing scattered, I was really hurt and I couldn't move on from him for a whole two years after we officially broke up. Smh. Sad.

So our first kiss was at his house. It was a bit weird cause one of his friends was there and the friend had just found out we were dating and thought it was really cute so he asked to see a kiss. It was literally a peck on the lips and very brief too but I went home with butterflies in my tummy that day. I don't think his friend knew that was our first kiss! LOL.

30 Day Challenge (Day 9)

Day 9; How do you hope your future will be like.

Not to be a party pooper but this is kinda the same question as Day 2 which was "Where would you like to be in 10 years?" Anyway I'll go ahead...

I would like my future to be a sunny and bright one cause I feel like I've had my fair share of gloomy days. Fine, I don't expect it to be ALL rosy, but I want it to be mostly a happy one.

I want success, love, and peace in my life in future.

Xxx

30 Day Challenge (Day 8)

Hello!

I didn't miss today :) Today's been a half good, half bad day. Don't wanna talk about the bad but the good is TODAY WAS THE LAST DAY OF CLASSES for Summer school. Fantastic much! I nearly floated out of the Biology lab when mister was done today. It was about time! I still have the final exam on Friday so I can't go into offline mode where school is concerned just yet...

So Day 8, a moment you felt the most satisfied with your life. I would say so far, that would be Graduation day. Amidst everything, it was REAL nice to see my happiness on my fam's faces and the way I felt inside, I was proud of myself and extremely grateful to God so... yeah! That's it :)

30 Day Challenge (Day 6 & 7)

And I missed another day. Yesterday I sprained my foot so my 30 day challenge was the last thing on my mind!

I'm here now so leggo!

Day 6; Write 30 interesting facts about yourself.

Ha, they shouldn't have used the word interesting. Well I'll try.

1. I like pain (sometimes) and I have expressed that with a few tattoos and piercings.

2. I'm not a people person but man cannot be an island so I try.

3. I adore Beyonce!

4. I don't have secrets. Well not really.

5. I'm a cool nerd. LOL

6. I used to hate pink but now, I love it, thanks to my BFF.

7. Also thanks to my BFF, I joined #teamnaturalhair last year and it's going amazing so far :)

8. My mum is one of my best friends.

9. I'm one of the few people who thinks all Destiny's Child members were fabulous. People are so mean to Kelly and Michelle sometimes, Michelle especially!

10. I hated Chris Brown when he first came out but I liked his music.

11. I cannot stand Justin Bieber and his hair flip.

12. I'm easy to please and also easy to piss off.

13. I avoid drama mainly but when I'm ready, ah... it's not pretty!

14. I love good music. Not such a fan of mainstream/ commercial music.

15. I love oldies!

16. I love "sad" love songs.

17. An easy way for me to deal with pain or disappointment has always been withdrawal.

18. I like doing things in MY OWN time. That's when I get things done right.

19. I dream of being a successful and widely known musician; just like Beyonce! :)

20. Finding my own Jay Z wouldn't hurt!

21. I'm finding this list VERY hard to do.

22. I often wonder how cool it'll be to take a bit off my boobs and put it behind x_x

23. I normally have a tough time getting the things I want, but I always end up getting them. I'm blessed like that.

24. Contrary to what most people think, I am not spoiled at all! Privileged fine, but definitely not spoiled.

25. I recently took a stand to make myself happy before anyone else. I used to do it the other way round but that didn't work out for me.

26. I want to have twins when I'm older.

27. A good way to my heart is through an amazing foot rub.

28. I try to fight it but truth be told, I'm a romantic. I love love. LOL

29. I work very hard but when I decide to take a chill pill, you can't get me to be serious.

30. I'm a firm believer in the saying "if you want it done right, do it yourself!". 

*sigh* Was that interesting? If not, sorry. That's the best I could do!

On to Day 7; Your zodiac sign and if you think it fits your personality.

I don't believe in zodiac signs first of all. But assuming I did, I'm an Aquarian and I guess some of the supposed traits of Aquarians do fit my personality. Examples; trustworthy, loves being in long relationships, eccentric and unpredictable. Then some are complete lies such as rude, insensitive and non-comittal. I am none of those things! Not naturally anyway. 

Person who came up with THIS has SERIOUS beef with an Aquarian somewhere!

Till tomorrow! xxx

30 Day Challenge (Day 4 and 5)

I doubt there's anyone who was up watching my blog and going "darn it! She missed Day 4!" but let's flatter me and assume there was. So next I will proceed to apologize to that person... or people (did I push my luck? LOL). What can I say, I'm kinda excited to have missed a day. Shows I have a life... somewhat. Well of course I have a life! If not this blog would be kinda irrelevant... I'm rambling aren't I? Speaking of, I tried to label my posts yesterday and majority went under the label "Ranting". And now, so will this one cause I have TOTALLY gone off track!

*Stop it Tara!* Okay. I'm back :) So Day 4. My views on religion.

That picture sums up my view on religion. It's really about love; loving God and letting Him love you. 

Now, Day 5. A time you thought about ending your own life.

Okay that's deep! Who comes up with these questions anyway. I'll skip this one!

xxx

Oh Dear!

I woke up at past 9 this morning (applaud. I'm an early riser) and I lay in bed till 11am wondering what to do with myself. My boredom and the lack of useful internet led me to open Photo Booth on my MacBook but I couldn't even take a decent photo. The red hair had gotten old. So I got off my ass, and headed to town to change my hair.

Bank first for money, market for the weave and then the hair salon. I should have probably taken my hair out myself and washed it in school because these salons in Nigeria make it seem like having natural hair is a crime. The lady who took my weave out, washed and dried my hair and then braided it... I have no words for her. She needs to beg God for forgiveness tonight.

As if that were not enough, my stylist takes one look at the weave I bought and informs me that it's a fake. There go the cute curls I had in mind! I was gonna have him curl the hair with a curling iron after fixing it. I should probably blame myself. I normally check the weave texture and all to know if it's the right one before I leave the shop but today, I was in such a rush for no apparent reason.

Summary, I have a new hairstyle now which I detest and a banging headache to boot. Luckily, I have pain killers and a pretty face so I won't let today's experience bring me down. Since getting back, I have gone through my lipstick collection to identify the colors that would make the hairstyle a bit tolerable and I am thinking chunky earrings will help make it look okay too.

I've never been a hat/ beanie/ things to put on your head person but now I'm wishing I was! As far as hair accessories go, all I have is this cute leopard print bow a friend made for me a few months ago. But leopard print... that's not something you can wear all the time. Or is it? I will need comments; feedback on whether or not I can utilize this bow!

P.S Y'all won't believe how many pictures I had to take before getting these two! Smh. I feel ugly and I miss that red hair! :(

Tribute to the World's Best Best Friend

I don't have many friends and lately, I have lost more friends than I have made new ones. But I've been lucky to have the most amazing best friend. As far as friends go, she is IT! Maybe it's cause of her I never feel my social case is critical; come rain, come shine, she's there for me to lean on and talk to. 

She never criticizes, rather she advises. She cheers me on and supports me in all my dreams; both the realistic ones and the ones that are a bit out there. We can talk on the phone for hours about just anything and we never run out on what to say! She's my sister. Aside from my blood sisters Bella and Rachel, she's the only other person who I can tell everything to. She is my BFF Ekpa Eyoma.

I am basking in the awesomeness of her after a 3 hour Skype call with her last night (I never got to my dorm spa treatment!) so I decided it is about time I gave her her very own post :)

Photo of us from high school x_x

She's a model. Beautiful huh? :)

She's one of the few friends I can now say I've known for a decade come September! A decade! It is not beans I tell you. And I wouldn't be the (slightly) level headed and responsible young woman that I am today without her influence. 

I love her like a fat child loves cake! LOL. And her 21st birthday is in exactly a week. Can't believe I'm gonna miss it :(

30 Day Challenge (Day 3)

Day 3; Your view on alcohol and drugs

If you cannot handle it, don't do it. 

Moderation is key too!

Dulling Friday night. I'm going to give myself a dorm spa treatment :) xoxo

Day 2: 30 Day Challenge

What's up!

Yeah I'm in a better mood today, thank Jah.

Day 2; Where you'd like to be in 10 years

That's easy! I'll be 30 then (sweet baby Jesus! x_x) so I'd like to be married and have my two kids already. I want to be a hot mum so better to get them out of the way before 30 and get my body back. There shall be no letting go for moi!

Also I would like to be an established and wealthy entertainer :D and if I could speak French or Spanish fluently by then, that would be lovely.

That's about it.

Toodles! [Don't ask -_-]

JUNE! + Beginning of my 30 day challenge

Happy new month darling people.

June and I am still in school. Damn, this year is emotional. Speaking of emotional, I just realized I've had seven days straight of an emotional slump. Not good. Can't wait to get out of here!!! All the one reason to be glad it's June now. Means my release is near. You know I liken being here, to doing time in prison and I'm almost out! LOL

Since June is 30 days, I decided to do my 30 day challenge this month. Y'all know what I'm talking about right?

I wasn't sure where to do this actually; Facebook, here or my Tumblr blog. Smh. I decided to go with here and Facebook. Tumblr already has it's own different "12 Day Challenge" which I will get to when I'm done with this one (even if it is homework oh! Boredom is a bissh) besides, I have few followers there so no need.

Anyways, before I ramble like I tend to, here goes!

Day 1: Your current relationship, if single discuss single life.

Like I said on Facebook, I think I should just skip this cause I really have NO FRIGGING IDEA where I stand. I didn't give details (cause I don't love Facebook as much as I love y'all here. LOL) but the thing is Colin and I are in highly troubled waters and I want to take some time away. He's gonna be here in school continuing the sentence when I get out so I guess that will be the time I need. 

If I really had to pick now though, I'll go with either 

a) Newly single and every intention of loving it. 

Or...

b) In a relationship that isn't so good at the moment. 

Sigh. Lord knows but I don't know why I still bother with guys. 

Till tomorrow!

Xxx